When you are fiercely protective

Column Post by Lisa Easterling

I’m a nice lady, but I can be a fiercely protective wife, mama, and friend.

This has gotten me into trouble. Once it necessitated my 16-year-old sitting me down to tell me that as much as he appreciated my being in his corner, I simply couldn’t ask things of people beyond their capabilities, and that I needed to leave them to God to continue to grow and perfect. I told him to shut up. Well, not exactly like that, but I did sulk for a bit at having been spiritually schooled by my teenager. Truth is, deep down I was fiercely proud of him. He has grown up to be protective of those he loves, too, all under God’s big plan, and he’s probably better at it than I. But maybe I’ll do in a pinch.

It pierced my heart to watch another son’s brave but tender heart be shattered by a girl. My protectiveness took the form of speaking truth a lot of people didn’t want told. In the end I zipped it up and sealed it shut because I was asked not to share it. It wasn’t fair that my son bore the brunt of something that wasn’t his fault, but God laid His calming hand over my heart and reminded me that this was ultimately for our son’s good. I now see what He meant. I was trying to protect him, but God was protecting him for something–someone–who would love and value him the way he deserves. I will always be grateful for that.

I was reminded a few days ago how quickly I can come to my husband’s defense when someone called his character into question. I had to walk away and pray me some Jesus intervention so I didn’t put the holy smack-down on some folk. Don’t be talking mess about my man.

I am wildly protective of the right to life for the pre-born, and the right to continued quality life for the elderly. I am unswervingly protective of all who have special challenges in life. They are among my favorite people on the planet. Since childhood I have been a champion for the underdog.

Some of the worst beatings I’ve ever suffered came as a result of me standing up for someone else. In 4th grade I stood up for my little friend Robin, and was nearly killed by the neighborhood bully for my troubles. That same year I stood up for another friend against a school bully and was promptly stuffed underneath the merry-go-round. I challenged another bully in 7th grade. I had a tendency to forget I was so small.

One thing I will always protect (because love always protects) is my family, and by extension the institution of family. It is my heart to preserve God’s plan for marriage, parenting, and family, so it is an area of ministry where “I feel God’s pleasure”.

I pray daily for the wisdom to protect well. Are you a protector, too?

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Lisa Easterling is a lifelong resident of the Tampa Bay area alongside her husband Steve, five children, and two grandchildren. A pioneer for home education in Florida, she has served in various areas of Christian women’s, marriage, and family ministry for most of her life. Lisa is a lifelong writer and editor, and has taught life story, poetry, and other creative writing skills in classrooms and workshops for over 25 years. Her writings have appeared in such publications as Homeschool Alliance magazine, Heartbeat the Magazine, The Family Corner, and Home EdVenture. Lisa currently serves as Ministry Director and weekly columnist for Write Where It Hurts, where she enjoys inspiring and equipping women to write through their pain to healing and hope.

As writing coach for So You Want To Write, she loves helping others catch word fever by showing them they truly do possess the ability to write, by providing step by step tools to help them word their stories, and by holding their hand and building into them as a genuine friend along the way.

Lisa blogs at www.lisaeasterling.com and can be reached by following @writepraylove on Twitter or by emailing blue@lisaeasterling.com.
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7 thoughts on “When you are fiercely protective

  1. Hi Lisa,
    I loved picturing you putting the “holy smack down” on someone! I’ve been known to do “let go and let myself” a time or two. I am fiercely protective of my family, and especially over my husband and children (they are all grown and can take care of themselves). One day recently I was talking to a girlfriend and she mentioned something her husband thought about my husband’s thoughts on politics. They are on the same side, but apparently her husband thought he was more “intellectual” about it. Something reared up in me, but I let Jesus do an intervention. My friendship with my friend and her husband were my priority and harsh words would not have been “fitly spoken.” Great post, Lisa!

  2. Linda, you made me chuckle. I love your “let go and let myself”. Now that should give us all something to think about! 🙂

    You are so right: we must be ever vigilant and intentional about how we respond to the curve balls life throws at us, because we know the Enemy of our Souls will stop at nothing (or no one) to ensnare or deceive us. If he can use us against one another, he scores a double play! We must stay in the Word, stay prayed up, and stay focused on His purpose for our lives, and we can’t do that without His help. We also have a much harder time trying to do it without one another, all of us working in concerted effort. Community is crucial. I don’t know about you, but knowing I’m not alone in this fight makes a world of difference for me.

    Thank you for your lovely thoughts, Linda.

  3. I have had to learn how to be protective … it does take some wisdom when to be or not to be protective, but when I need to be protective, the ‘mama bear’ comes out! <3

  4. I am a fierce protector as well! Of my beliefs, my family, my friends, my job (I work in drug treatment). I’m so protective of my nieces and nephews that if I could still go in the bathroom with my 15-year-old nephew to make sure he is safe, I would. They laugh at me usually…. Loved this article! I can totally relate.

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