Suffering and sorrow are inevitable parts of life. Loved ones die. Dreams crumble. We lose things that were once important to us. The happily-ever-after life we dreamed of is often a far cry from the reality we live. How we respond to loss and change determines what happens to our hearts. It also determines if […]
Author: Rita Schulte
How You Forgive a Flawed Parent
I am experiencing some powerful emotions right now. Over the past two days I’ve seen pictures on Facebook of my father and of a sister whom I have never met {or seen before}. I don’t know the circumstances behind why I didn’t know my father and I’m not sure if my sister even knows […]
Ask the Counselor: When We Don’t Want to Hear God
{This is where each week readers connect with licensed professional counselor Rita Schulte to walk through some of the hard places. And Rita offers hands-on practical insight to the tough topics facing Christian women today. If you have a question you would like answered, please email us at info@WriteWhereItHurts.org. Meanwhile let’s join Rita as she […]
Can I Ever Make Up for Bad Parenting?
Reader Question: I made some mistakes as a parent. As a broken, often-alone, and abused mother, I believe I did the best I could with what I had at the time. Since coming to know Jesus, I have spent years pouring into my daughter with the hope of making up for any hard places my […]
Ask the Counselor: How Can I Break this Isolation?
Reader Question: I suffer from Complex-Post Traumatic Stress. I have lots of abuse in the past from childhood to my adult years. I have had extreme trust issues for the last several years, but I want to be healed. I’ve gotten professional help off and on for years, but I know I will need more support because […]
Ask the Counselor: Is It Possible for Memories of Abuse to be Forgotten and then Remembered?
Reader Question: I’m hoping you can help me. I have no memory of anything happening, but I believe it’s possible I was sexually abused as a child. Perhaps at a friend’s house. When I consider the puzzle pieces, it all points to that possibility. If I start from the place of accepting that I […]
Ask the Counselor: How Do I {Really} Release My Burdens to God?
Reader Question: I have asked others this question and there seems to be no answer. It seems silly, like it should be easy for me to figure out, but I can’t. I am bipolar, mostly the depressive side of it, suffer from debilitating Fibromyalgia, have several emotional/mental issues, and right now am at my […]
When the Family Tree has {potentially} Rotten Roots
Reader Question: I’m 72-years old and I have been tracing my family tree on Ancestry.com for the past several years. I am the oldest surviving member from both the maternal and fraternal side of my family. My brother (two years younger) found out that he and I have different fathers making us half siblings. Here […]
How Can I Enforce Healthy Boundaries?
Reader Question: How do I explain my boundaries with my family to those who think because I am a Christian, I should not have these boundaries? These are boundaries that have not been put in place lightly, ones I have dedicated to prayer and I feel they are appropriate and needed. But I am constantly […]
Will I Ever Get Over this Pain?
Question: Will there ever be a day on this earth, in this lifetime, where yet another layer of healing doesn’t unravel me? Elizabeth, I am so sorry for your pain. If we are honest, we know that suffering and sorrow are inevitable parts of life. Loved ones die. Dreams crumble. We lose things that were […]